Published Article- All about love – Dr Kirasha Allopi
Love captivates the mind, fills the heart and lightens the soul
Love is the only emotion that can make me feel whole,
It has the power to transform, to heal to make one feel complete,
Its grows in magnitude and intensity with every heartbeat
Love is forever in my being….
Love is one of the highest vibrational feelings I have found there is in the universe. I say that with great acknowledgement as with Love for self and love for life our level of existence becomes more meaningful and profound. All relationships begin with love, that tingling warm, fluttering comforting feeling. Trust, respect, understanding, support are other important elements that sustain a growing relationship.Balancing giving and receiving is also an important factor for relationships and should be in equal balance so that both partners are in harmony with each other. Relationships take time to build, patience to develop and a need for both individuals who truly want to be together.
So the question remains, what exactly is the secret to a happy couple? I have found from my experience that there are key elements to a GOOD relationship.
Time – All relationships need time to build, each partner brings a diversity of their character to the relationship. Good and strong foundations take time to develop. Always give your partner the time they deserve, you will never understand the importance of time until you don’t have enough of it. Often couples get involved in their routine of life and forget to give their relationship the time and attention it truly deserves. Set aside quality time, romantic breaks and plan beautiful moments together. Invest in your relationship.
Acceptance – Accept your partner. We all have different unique characters. We are not perfect and we are always striving to become better. Accept your partner as an entire individual love them for who they truly are.
Support – Supporting your partner is one of the crucial elements to a good relationship. Support each other’s dreams, goals and aspirations. Encourage your partner to be the best that they can be. Be there as their source of encouragementand light in times of hardships and share their joy. Supportive healthy relationships can lower anxiety and stress in an individual.
Communication– Communicate about everything. Don’t expect your partner to know your needs. Verbalise your needs, wants and insecurities to your partner. Let them know what you are feeling. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind. Communicate to each other in a respectful way.
Respect – Each individual should maintain a level of respect in a relationship. Conflict will arise and there will be arguments, handle them in a dignified manner. Degrading your partner and making them feel of no value is a great obstacle in relationships and creates problems. Remember that respect starts with yourself first!
Responsibility of self and self love – Be responsible for “you” as a person. In life no one can take care of you, you need to take care of and love yourself first. Never forget that love for self is the greatest love of all. You are an embodiment of love. Our entire life begins to shift in magnificent ways when we develop self love. Spend time getting to know you and embrace your uniqueness. You are a gift to the world.
Commitment – Be committed to your partner and make them feel that your relationship is of priority and of importance.Stay committed to yourself and your relationship. Be your partner’s best friend and lover. Good friendships always make good future relationships.
Make GOD the first priority in your life. Our creator is a powerful force in our life and his love is expansive. God is love and God’s love is everywhere. Relationships based on God’s love first last a lifetime and are eternally bonded.
We as women wish for and dream of our knight in shining armour, that true gentleman. All this begins with placing high value, respect and importance in ourselves as women. We reflect and attract what we become in life. There are incredibly great men out there willing to treat you with the love and respect you deserve. Allow yourself to experience this love with all your heart. We also need to be more accepting to the romantic gestures we receive from the special men in our lives.
Our upbringing and our childhood also relates to our capacity to love. Often when we are faced with hardships and difficulties growing up we tend to block our capacity to receive love in its greatest form. We feel inadequate and of no value and we seek to fill this emptiness by getting into a relationship. Sometimes our relationships are not healthy and we stay because we are afraid to be alone. Fear of being alone is a common reason I have found people get into relationships. When we grow and develop ourselves as individuals we tend to be better at relationships and we get into a partnership where both partners develop and benefit, an inter-dependent relationship not one of dependency. In childhood, when we receive love, care and nurturing as a child we are able to feel more loved and accepted in society. As we grow older it is important to nourish the inner child within us. Nourish your inner child by being creative and playful. There is an inner child within all of us that needs attention sometimes no matter how old we get. Unresolved feelings about our past, hurt in previous relationships, emotional baggage all affect our ability to love. Overcome negative thought patterns or speak to a professional therapist to work out issues that prevent you from trusting and fully accepting love in your life.
To love and be loved is one of the greatest feelings of all. May we all open our hearts to receiving and giving love and extending it to all around us. As Deepak Chopra quote’s- If love is universal, no one can be left out.
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All my love,